It’s understandable to walk into a restaurant and feel a little self-conscious when the hostess asks, “Just you?” As someone who enjoys solo dates, I initially felt as though people were staring when they would see me dining on my own. It bothered me at first, but then I got over it because I realized what does it matter? I don’t know them, they don’t know me, and I’m only here to enjoy my meal!
If you’ve never dined on your own at a restaurant (fast food chains excluded), then I challenge you to take yourself out for a nice meal and enjoy your own company. Brush off the insecurities of dining solo (if any) and dig in!
Bon appétit, my friends.
If you rarely splurge on things for yourself, now is the time to order what YOU want. It may sound trivial and simple, but indulging in something as small as a meal you desire can be a rewarding feeling because it just hits the spot.
This meal is all about you and your taste buds. Can’t decide between two dishes? Order them both and turn your meal into a hodge podge of treats. It sounds a little self-indulgent, but a little indulgence every now and then is nice. On the plus side, your future self will be grateful for the leftovers when you’re randomly scavenging in your fridge for a midnight snack (because you already know that will happen).
2. Peaceful mind
Small talk can be nice for a short while, but there are days when you’re maxed out mentally and just want to sit down for a nice meal in silence. In a world where we are always connected to our phones and sometimes a slave to every notification that bleeds through, it can be a reprieve to bask in blissful solitude.
Turn your phone off (or if you can’t bear to do that, at least put it on silent) and just relax. You have no one else to answer to but yourself. That basket of bread at your table couldn’t care less if you strike a conversation with it or not. Use this moment to take a break from the day-to-day and just eat.
3. All you need is yourself
Who says you need to wait for someone to take you to that new restaurant in your city? Take yourself out on a date and #treatyoself. Why stop there? Go the whole nine yards. Call the restaurant and proudly make a reservation for one. Dust off your best outfit from your closet and get dressed up for the occasion. Treat it as though you’re going on an actual date with someone else. Dress up for yourself and enjoy your meal while looking your best. (Sometimes dressing down is also a nice and comfy alternative.)
4. You get to be present
Have you ever gotten through a meal at home or work with little memory of scarfing it down? Sometimes this happens when we’re preoccupied with a project and or multitasking, resulting in us mindlessly eating (I’m guilty of this).
When you’re at a restaurant, you’re pretty much forced to sit down and focus on your meal because it’s the only thing you’re there for. If you’re dining on your own, you will not only get the chance to experience every bite and savor every flavor that passes through your mouth, but you will get to be more mindful of what you eat as well.
5. Time to unwind and recharge
If you’re constantly surrounded by people at work, or even by your partner or family when you get home, sometimes a moment of peace is hard to come by. You don’t have to tend to the needs of others when you dine on your own. In fact, one of the perks of eating at a restaurant is being waited on. The only person whose needs matter at that moment are your own. Listen to what you want. Indulge in that cheesecake you’ve been eyeing on the menu. Go on, you deserve it! Bonus? No need to share if you don’t want to.
What are your experiences with dining on your own? I’d love to hear your thoughts in a comment below!